Get Out of Your Way! 5 Steps to Success

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You’ve probably heard the saying, “You are your biggest obstacle.” As humans, we tend to put limits on our potential success because we are afraid of failure and lack confidence. Well, what if you could be “your biggest advantage” instead? Good news – you can.

Our mind is a powerful thing. Numerous studies have confirmed the positive effects of visualization on athlete performance and the transformational placebo effect on individuals with chronic pain. And who hasn’t heard the trendy saying, “positive vibes, positive mind, positive life?”

So how do we harness the power of our mind to reach our highest potential and live our best lives? Mindset work.

I believe our feelings, whether they are feelings of joy, fear, anger, or anything else, are products of our thoughts. Consider these two opposing thoughts one could have about doing a headstand:

  • I’ll never be able to do that.

  • I’ve never done it before, but with determination and guidance, it’s possible.

By tuning into the mind’s, thoughts, beliefs, and desires, we can improve our ability to choose which thoughts to focus on and, ultimately, how we feel and how we choose to take action.

The situation is the same, but the thoughts lead to very different outcomes. What feelings or emotions do each of these thoughts provoke? For me, the first creates feelings of inadequacy, hopelessness, and disappointment. The second inspires hope, optimism, confidence, and motivation.

Which thought would you choose to think? Which thought is more likely to lead to successful action?

My experiences have led me discover that by tuning into the mind’s, thoughts, beliefs, and desires, we can improve our ability to choose which thoughts to focus on and, ultimately, how we feel and how we choose to take action.

This is not to say any particular emotion is negative, but rather that it can be hard to pull ourselves out of an emotion once we have truly experienced it. That’s when we get into trouble.

I believe in experiencing emotions fully, but if you’re feeling like your mindset may be holding you back from reaching your highest potential, here are my five steps to reset your mindset:

1.   Become aware and accepting

It’s hard to make changes to your mindset if you’re not aware of your thoughts. Incorporating mindfulness through practices like meditation and journaling are a great way to tune into your mindset.

Once you start to become aware of your thoughts, you must be accepting of them. Resisting or judging your current thoughts will only create conflict when trying to develop a new mindset. Remember to have self-compassion when you’re learning to accept a part of yourself you want to change.

2.   Seek to understand

You didn’t choose this way of thinking. You learned it. Something in your life has led you to develop this mindset as a means of protection. Let’s say you experienced a bad break up and now your automatic response to the thought of dating is that you’ll never find love and dating is a waste of time. The mind did what was best to try and protect you from another bad experience, but now those thoughts are holding you back from getting out there.

In order to change your mindset, you must seek to understand where it came from. Journaling, meditation, spending time in nature, and talk-therapy are all great ways to start to understand how you developed this thought pattern.

3.   Release old ways of thinking

Once you are aware, accepting, and understanding of your thoughts, you can start to release them and make room for new ways of thinking. Each person will have their own preferred method of release. Some like to write down their limiting beliefs and burn the piece of paper. Others like to cleanse with sage or crystals. Take some time to try new methods and figure out which serves you best. Be patient with yourself.

4.   Decide what you want

What does your ideal life look like? What do you want to manifest? How do you want to feel? You are the creator of your life. Your thoughts create feelings which inspire action. What results do you desire? Once you have a clear vision, decide which thoughts are going to create the feelings which will inspire you to take action. Make a list of those thoughts.

5.   Affirm your new thoughts

This step is just as important as the previous steps, if not more. The more you practice your new thoughts, the more automatic they will become. Just as there are many methods of releasing thoughts, there are many methods of affirming them.

A mantra is a great way to practice your new mindset. Experiment with new ways to affirm your positive thoughts and most importantly, keep at it. With time, you will start to believe these thoughts and take aligned action towards creating the results you desire.

If you’d like to dive deeper in mindset work, learn the tools to work through this five-step process, and start making progress towards your goals, check out the Mindset Reset program by clicking here:

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About Natalie


Natalie is a wellness coach, group exercise instructor, and personal trainer. She earned a B.S. in Exercise Science from the University of North Carolina at Wilmington and holds certifications from the National Academy of Sports Medicine and the American Council on Exercise. She has received training for behavior change from Wellcoaches School of Coaching and has worked with a variety of individuals of all ages and abilities to help them improve their well-being. Her mission is to help those who lack confidence and feel like the odds are against them to believe in their worth, take back their power, and create their happiest and healthiest life.

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